He was released with no charges, by the way.
The story goes as follows:
After a night of drinking, Charris Bowers and her husband arrived at their Deltona home late Saturday and began having oral sex, the report says.
But moments later as Bowers and her spouse, Delou, engaged in the act, she began biting down hard enough that Delou Bowers asked her to stop, the report says.
When she refused, Delou Bowers started punching Charris Bowers in the head and face until she finally let go, the report says.
That wasn't enough, according to the report. Charris Bowers then attempted to punch her husband and he shoved her to the ground and left the room.
Charris Bowers told deputies that she bit her husband because she did not want to have sex.
Generally, when one is forced to engage in sex without consent, it's called rape. In this case, it's apparently innocent marital fun that ended in a terrible crazy female assault.
After reading a bunch of posts on the topic, I thought of some words of wisdom from everyone's favorite right-wing nutjob, Dennis Prager, whose opinion regarding marital sex is as follows:
What if your husband woke up one day and announced that he was not in the mood to go to work? If this happened a few times a year, any wife would have sympathy for her hardworking husband. But what if this happened as often as many wives announce that they are not in the mood to have sex?
That's right, ladies. Having sex with your husband is your job; refusing is terribly irresponsible. And can, apparently, lead to your arrest, if your refusal turns into violent self-defense.
As Yes Means Yes points out, the column constantly describes sex as a wife "giving her body" to her husband. And then compares it to a job; I'm assuming the husband is the employer? Dennis crafts a world in which sex is an object to be given, and by getting married, the woman is handing over ownership.
But wait! You might cry. Isn't sex supposed to be more of a shared experience than something to be given or owned?
Fortunately, Dennis is here to correct our silly feminine notions of sex.
Many contemporary women have an almost exclusively romantic notion of sex: It should always be mutually desired and equally satisfying or one should not engage in it. Therefore, if a couple engages in sexual relations when he wants it and she does not, the act is “dehumanizing” and “mechanical.”
Yes, mutually enjoyable sex is a silly myth. (Personally, I can't see why any guy would want "mechanical" sex, but what would I know?)
It sounds ridiculous (because it is,) but ideas like this obviously aren't limited to the world of crazy fundamentalist columnists. If we didn't assume consent came with marriage, would Charris Bowers be arrested for defending herself against unwanted sex with her husband?